Tuesday, July 24, 2012
Success or failure?
Since giving birth to Spencer (11-2009), I haven't been using a formal birth control method. We have prevented pregnancy using condoms and other means. And, then last year, we decided to try for another baby-it didn't take much trying. We had sex once, and viola-I was pregnant. In the months between Spencer's birth and now, I started to experience menstrual migraines. The migraines did not occur every cycle, mostly every 3rd or 4th cycle. But, when they occurred, it was always on the morning before my period. I typically would wake with one. They are debilitating. I can not function. I usually end up vomiting. Hubby is forced to stay home from work.
We decided that after the miscarriage that we were going to be done having kids. 2 adorable boys was enough for us. I was trying my hardest to accept this. I quit doing Stroller Strides, I started to give away all my baby gear and clothes. I felt satisfied and happy. I was doing my best to live each day and appreciate my family.
The migraines coupled with my attempt to put my childbearing years behind me... I decided to get a Mirena IUD. From memory, I never had migraines until I was unprotected by birth control. My logic was that the birth control hormones were helpful. I had an IUD after I had Elliott and loved it. I had always had great luck with Depo Provera. Though, all of the research indicates that birth control often causes the migraines--I read that to indicate birth control PILLS. I was going to take my chances.
Man O'man the IUD insertion was painful. She didn't need to do anything special to insert the IUD since it was the last day of my period. Apparently, during your menstrual cycle, your cervix is open slightly making the IUD insertion easier. My cervix DID NOT like the sneak attack. I cramped for 6 solid weeks, and had a ton of spotting. Having the IUD was wonderful. I felt balanced and happy for the first time in a LONG time. I loved the hormones that it supplied. I gave me exactly what I needed to feel normal again.
Then one day, around 8 weeks ago, I decided I was ready to start trying again. I gently broached the topic with my hubby. He was luke warm about the idea. I explained more about how I was feeling--the 'incomplete' feeling, the longing for another child, the way I see our family in 10 years, etc.. And he agreed! I got the IUD out the next day. It was the most expensive experiment ever ($1300 for the IUD and insertion).
This is our first month trying. And, since I am not getting any younger (I will be 38 next month!), I have been going crazy neurotic with ovulation tests. I have done all of the 'right' things this month. We will see what happens--though it is not in my nature to be patient. Somehow, when the pregnancy test is negative, it feels like I have failed in some way. Let's hope we succeed.